Let’s be honest.

The backlash to my book—especially me speaking openly about sex, rape, and sexual harm—is not because the topics are inappropriate, unbiblical, or dangerous.

It’s because I’m a Black woman saying them out loud.

If I were white, this wouldn’t be controversial.
It would be called:

• “brave”
• “necessary”
• “important work”
• “raising awareness”

Instead, coming from me, it’s labeled:

• “too much”
• “improper”
• “damaging”
• “unnecessary”
• “divisive”

Same topics.
Different body.

Black Women Are Not Allowed Innocence or Authority

Black women are trapped in a double bind:

• We’re hypersexualized, yet punished for discussing sex
• We’re expected to endure harm quietly, but shamed for naming it
• We’re doubted as victims and challenged as truth-tellers

When a Black woman talks about rape, people don’t hear advocacy—they hear accusation.
They get uncomfortable not because the topic is wrong, but because it disrupts the lie that Black women are always “strong enough” to handle it.

If a White Woman Said This…

Let’s be real.

If a white woman wrote the same book:

• Churches would invite her to speak
• Panels would frame her as “healing conversations”
• Her vulnerability would be seen as purity, not provocation
• Her voice would be granted automatic credibility

She wouldn’t be told to “tone it down.”
She wouldn’t be accused of having a “spirit.”
She wouldn’t be treated like she’s corrupting people.

She’d be protected.

The Church’s Discomfort Is Racialized

In church spaces especially, Black women are expected to:

• uphold respectability
• protect the church’s image
• remain silent about sexual violence
• never embarrass leadership

So when a Black woman talks about rape, she’s not just “speaking”—she’s breaking an unspoken rule.

Not a biblical rule.
A racial one.

Silence has always been demanded from Black women because truth threatens power.

This Isn’t About Sexuality — It’s About Control

Talking about sex and rape exposes:

• how often abuse is ignored
• how often victims are blamed
• how often churches protect reputation over people

That’s dangerous territory—especially when the messenger is a Black woman who refuses to be polite, quiet, or grateful for crumbs.

So the backlash comes dressed up as “concern,” “discernment,” or “biblical caution.”

But underneath it is fear:
a Black woman who names harm cannot be controlled.

I’m Not the Problem — The Bias Is

My book isn’t radical.
The truth isn’t inappropriate.
The Bible doesn’t forbid naming injustice.

What makes people uncomfortable is seeing a Black woman claim:

• authority
• credibility
• moral clarity
• and her own voice

And still refuse to shrink.

If my honesty is only acceptable when it comes from white bodies, then the issue isn’t my message.

It’s racism.