Telling someone how they should handle their rape is selfish. When a person experiences something as traumatic as sexual assault, the last thing they need is for others to control their voice or their healing. Being told to stay silent, not talk about it, or “just move on” often protects other people’s comfort rather than the survivor’s wellbeing. Healing is not one-size-fits-all. Some survivors speak publicly, some share only with trusted people, and others express their pain through writing, prayer, or advocacy. Every survivor deserves the freedom to process their trauma in the way that helps them heal. Taking away that choice only adds another layer of harm to something that was already deeply violating.