Talking to kids about suicide is important, and it can actually protect them rather than harm them. Many people worry that bringing it up will “put ideas in their head,” but research shows the opposite: having open, honest conversations reduces risk and helps kids feel safer.

Here’s why it matters:

1. Kids notice more than adults think

Even young kids pick up on stress, sadness, and big emotions. If no one talks about it, they try to make sense of it alone — and that can lead to fear, shame, or misunderstanding.

2. Open conversations break the silence

Silence can make a child feel like tough emotions are “bad” or “not allowed.” When adults talk openly, kids learn:

• It’s okay to feel big feelings
• They’re not alone
• They can talk to trusted adults

3. It gives them language and tools

When kids understand what suicide is (in an age-appropriate way), they know:

• How to ask for help
• How to help a friend
• How to name what they’re feeling instead of hiding it

4. It’s prevention, not suggestion

Evidence shows that talking about suicide does not increase suicidal thoughts.
It builds:

• Understanding
• Connection
• Support

5. Kids who are struggling often won’t bring it up unless adults do

Asking directly (“Has anything ever made you feel like hurting yourself?”) gives them permission to speak honestly. Many kids feel relieved when an adult starts the conversation.