🔹 Insensitive Things People Say in Church Settings About Infertility
1. “Just have more faith.”
This implies infertility is a spiritual failure instead of a medical, emotional, or deeply personal struggle.
2. “Maybe God doesn’t think you’re ready yet.”
This makes God sound punitive and blames the person for something beyond their control.
3. “God will bless you in His timing.”
Meant to be comforting, but can feel dismissive—like your pain isn’t real or valid right now.
4. “Just pray about it.”
As if the person hasn’t already been praying for years.
5. “Maybe there’s a reason God doesn’t want you to have kids.”
Extremely hurtful and can make someone feel rejected by God.
6. “You can always adopt.”
Adoption is beautiful, but offering it as a quick “solution” minimizes the grief of infertility.
7. “At least you have your freedom!”
Completely invalidates someone’s longing and sorrow.
8. “You’re lucky, kids are a lot of work.”
Insensitive because it reduces parenthood to inconvenience when the person longs for it.
9. “Just relax and it will happen.”
Oversimplifies a complex medical and emotional reality.
10. “Have you tried [random remedy]?”
Especially when delivered as if infertility is caused by ignorance or not trying hard enough.
11. “Maybe you’re focusing on it too much.”
A form of blaming the person for caring about something that deeply affects them.
12. “Maybe it’s God protecting you from something.”
Suggests something is wrong with them or their potential child.
