Breaking the “Struggling Black Woman” Narrative

I’ve been noticing something lately, and I think it’s worth saying: there’s this trend—especially online—where women, and particularly Christian women, share their struggles in ways that can almost feel glorified. Postpartum depression, marriage struggles, mental health challenges…none of these things are fake or unimportant, but sometimes they get shared in ways that feel more like content than reality. And for some people, I think social media rewards this. Vulnerability becomes performative, and personal pain becomes a way to gain followers or engagement.

I’m not denying anyone’s struggles. Everyone goes through hard seasons. But I’ve learned something important through my own journey: there’s a difference between sharing to process or inspire and sharing just for the platform. My book tells my story authentically—I was struggling, yes, but I was away from social media during those seasons. By the time I returned, I was fully healed, fully restored. The last chapter of my book isn’t about surviving; it’s about thriving, because God had a plan all along. My story isn’t content for the public—it’s real, and it shows the full arc from struggle to restoration.

For black women, this is especially important. Society already assumes a lot about us: that we can’t be wives, good moms, that we’re doomed to be single, that we can’t balance love, marriage, and motherhood. And too often, social media amplifies these stereotypes. I’ve seen Christian black women share deeply personal struggles—going through divorce, postpartum depression, emotional breakdowns—and while their pain is real and valid, it also feeds into the narrative that black women are meant to struggle.

We need to highlight black women who are thriving. Women who are loved, supported, mentally and emotionally healthy. Women whose stories aren’t defined by survival but by joy, restoration, and God’s purpose. That doesn’t erase the struggles we face—it redefines what’s possible. Black women can be strong and fully supported, resilient and loved, mothers and emotionally fulfilled.

My journey is proof of that. I was once in the thick of struggle, but now I’m living fully healed. My story isn’t about being a “struggling black woman”; it’s about being a restored one. And that’s the story I want to share—not for likes, not for followers, but because the world needs to see that black women can thrive in all areas of life.