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There are manyyyyy women and men who desire to become a mother/father in 2026 and it shall be so in Jesus name! Nothing is too hard for God, absolutely nothing at all!

It’s no secret some of us are familiar with Dr.miracle hair products, I used the product before at one point in my life, I had so many issues with hair damage/loss and I needed a miracle and the product I must admit did live up to its name and salvaged my hair. Well this applies […]

That feeling makes a lot of sense — married sex is often overhyped, especially in church settings, and the hype itself can be harmful. Here’s what’s usually going on beneath that overhyping: 1. Sex gets sold as the “fix” for everythingIn many churches, marriage (and sex within it) is presented as: That creates unrealistic expectations. Sex […]

Silence doesn’t equal innocence. Silence equals vulnerability. When adults avoid honest conversations about sex, consent, and boundaries, kids are left to learn from: That’s not protection. That’s exposure. Education does what silence cannot: Predators thrive where there is taboo.Kids are safest where there is clarity. This is why your point makes people uncomfortable — because it exposes […]

Yes — that statement is essentially true, and there’s solid psychological and social reasoning behind it. When people know less about sex, consent, boundaries, and their own bodies, they tend to be more suggestible and more vulnerable to manipulation. Here’s why: 1. Lack of language = lack of power If someone doesn’t have clear language for: they may sense something […]

That kind of teaching didn’t protect us—it confused us. It introduced sexual imagery without giving us language, agency, or boundaries. No one told us that every sexual act requires clear, willing consent. No one told us that saying yes to one thing never means saying yes to another. And no one told us that we […]

Compare that to many rap songs teens hear: they often include derogatory, objectifying, or aggressive sexual content—and almost never talk about consent. That can send a harmful message about what’s “normal” or acceptable in sexual relationships. Being explicit doesn’t mean being reckless. Showing consent and respect is what makes sexual content responsible—and what gives readers healthy tools for understanding sexuality.

1. Hidden Identity → Coming Out / Self-Acceptance Usagi is just an “ordinary” girl before she realizes she’s Sailor Moon.Your book mirrors this: Sailor Moon isn’t created — she’s revealed.That’s exactly how identity works in real life too. 2. Chosen Ones Are Often Mocked First Usagi is: Yet she’s the most powerful Sailor Guardian. That parallels you as […]

Yes—exactly! That “wow” moment is such a profound realization. As kids, we think superheroes are just cartoons or comic book characters with capes and powers. But as we grow older, we start seeing real-life versions of heroism in unexpected forms: It’s like the world slowly teaches you that “superpowers” aren’t just flying or laser vision—they’re courage, resilience, […]

Basically, you’re the Underdog of your story: underestimated by some, but ultimately the hero of your own narrative.

Many survivors of sexual assault or coercion notice that their bodies react physically after the experience—not just emotionally. Nausea, diarrhea, stomach cramps, headaches, and fatigue are all common responses. These reactions are normal responses to trauma, not a sign that anything is “wrong” with you. Here’s why this happens: Healing is possible If you’ve ever felt physically sick after […]

Most people were never clearly taught what consent actually is, especially in churches, families, or schools. So they rely on assumptions, silence, power dynamics, or outdated ideas instead of real understanding. At its core, consent is: What many people were taught instead: None of that is consent. And this gap in understanding is exactly why so many people:

Hmm when I think about my life, I must say in 1995 is when I can truly remember my life making sense, and me being happy and confident. In 1995 I was 2 years old and turned 3 later that year, I just remember having soooo much fun and playing with all my toys. Now […]

It’s funny early 2015 I was in cosmetology about to graduate, I ended up finishing in march of that year, However upon finishing nothing progressed afterwards, I didn’t even take my exam right away I waited months and when I finally did take it that summer I failed terribly. But hmm early 2025 I was […]

“Growing up, I loved Clarissa Explains It All. I didn’t know why at the time — she was different, honest, unfiltered. Now I realize: she was showing me a blueprint for living my truth. This book is my Clarissa moment — only grown, only real, only mine.” 2025 and beyond= Shalonda explains it all

In order to be delivered from something you must first know what exactly it is and what exactly it’s called, Think about sickness, if you have a sickness or disease in your body you must know the name of the sickness/disease in order to cast/call it out, in my book I vividly talk about and […]

Why women often face more stigma when speaking up 1. Victim-blaming is gendered Women are more likely to be asked: The underlying message is that women are expected to manage men’s behavior, and when abuse happens, society looks for ways to hold the woman responsible. 2. Sexual purity standards Women are still judged through a lens of: Speaking about sexual […]

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Getting a new asthma diagnosis can be really overwhelming, and it’s understandable that it could affect your self-esteem. When your body suddenly feels “different” or less predictable, it can make you feel vulnerable, limited, or even like you’re “less capable,” even though that isn’t true. Here are some perspectives and strategies that can help: Why […]

A few important things to know: This isn’t you becoming “bitter,” “hard,” or “unloving.”It’s your boundaries upgrading. And in spaces like church, this can feel extra jarring—because fakeness often hides behind “niceness,” “spiritual language,” or forced forgiveness. Your spirit rejecting that is not rebellion; it’s wisdom.

After sexual trauma, your nervous system shifts into survival awareness. It’s your body and spirit saying: “I will never let that happen again.” What high protective mode can look like This isn’t bitterness.This isn’t rebellion.This is self-protection and wisdom born from pain. Why it can feel intense Right after (or even long after) rape, the brain stays in […]

Here’s how it commonly happens: Why rape trauma can cause weight loss Important truth👉 This is not vanity. It’s not an eating disorder by default. It’s a nervous system injury.Your body is responding to danger that already happened but still feels present. Common signs trauma-related weight loss may include

It’s a form of control dressed up as advice. Here’s why it’s harmful: 1. It polices women in ways men aren’t policed.Ambition in men is praised as leadership, drive, or vision. In women, it’s often reframed as arrogance, selfishness, or “doing too much.” That double standard teaches women to shrink. 2. It conditions women to […]

I hear you. That makes a lot of sense. Traumatic experiences like rape can painfully sharpen your awareness of the realities of sexual abuse—how it happens, how predators operate, and how often it goes unnoticed or unacknowledged. You might notice patterns, warning signs, and behaviors that others might overlook because you’ve lived through that kind […]

What‑if” thinking is a form of grief.You’re grieving the version of your life you feel was taken from you—the innocence, the safety, the path you thought you were on. That’s a real kind of loss, and it deserves compassion, not judgment. 2. Your life didn’t end there.Even though the trauma shaped you, it does not define the […]

My rapist was a smart straight A student wow! One of the hardest parts about experiences like this is that people often have preconceived ideas about what a “rapist” looks like—or how a “smart” or “good” person behaves. But the truth is, intelligence, grades, or outward achievements have no bearing on someone’s capacity to commit abuse […]

Here’s why it often feels that way: 1. Silence was taught as “respect.” Many Black households were raised on “don’t talk back,” “stay in a child’s place,” and “what happens in this house stays in this house.”Those messages create environments where boundary violations — including sexual ones — are hidden instead of confronted. 2. The church struggles with anything that […]

Joel 2:25King James Version 25 And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpiller, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you.

Here are some examples of what survivors sometimes report discovering: 1. Inner strength they didn’t know they had Many survivors look back and realize, “I lived through something I thought would break me.”That strength belongs to them, not to the trauma. 2. Deeper empathy and compassion Some survivors become extremely understanding of others’ pain, making them supportive […]

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ISAIAH 10:27  KJ21 And it shall come to pass in that day, that his burden shall be taken away from off thy shoulder and his yoke from off thy neck, and the yoke shall be destroyed because of the anointing. Proverbs 24:16-18New King James Version 16 For a righteous man may fall seven timesAnd rise again,But the wicked […]

Psalm 113:9 He settles the childless woman in her home as a happy mother of children. Praise the LORD. Hebrews 11:1King James Version 11 Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.

Psalm 118:17King James Version 17 I shall not die, but live, and declare the works of the Lord.Psalm 23-4 King James Version 23 The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want. 2 He maketh me to lie down in green pastures: he leadeth me beside the still waters. 3 He restoreth my soul: he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness […]

🔹 Insensitive Things People Say in Church Settings About Infertility 1. “Just have more faith.” This implies infertility is a spiritual failure instead of a medical, emotional, or deeply personal struggle. 2. “Maybe God doesn’t think you’re ready yet.” This makes God sound punitive and blames the person for something beyond their control. 3. “God […]

In short, shaming women for pregnancy is harmful because it attacks their dignity, autonomy, and well-being, while reinforcing unfair societal pressures.

1. It reinforces victim-blaming When society says a woman shouldn’t dress “too sexy,” it implies: This is extremely harmful. Sexual harassment and assault are caused by perpetrators—not clothing. Victim-blaming keeps women silent, ashamed, and less willing to report abuse. 2. It shifts responsibility away from the actual problem Instead of teaching men self-control, respect, and […]

1. It reinforces gender roles that limit women This message teaches women to: This leaves women feeling powerless, insecure, and hesitant to express interest or set boundaries. 2. It gives men all the control If a man is told he is the only one allowed to pursue: This can lead to dismissing her boundaries, pushing past comfort zones, […]

1. It teaches men to avoid accountability When men are told that women’s bodies, clothes, or presence “cause” their lust, it sends the message: This prevents emotional maturity and encourages men to believe their reactions are automatic and uncontrollable—when in reality, lust is about internal discipline, not external women. 2. It sets the stage for victim-blaming […]

Ya’ll on Tuesday 12/2 The stupid Devil start attacking me with a asthma attack, my chest got so tight I could barely breathe or move around or eat/sleep even, so I went to urgent care that evening and got some prednisone but I still struggled for a few days afterwards, my chest was soooo tight, […]

Here’s why it matters: 1. Kids notice more than adults think Even young kids pick up on stress, sadness, and big emotions. If no one talks about it, they try to make sense of it alone — and that can lead to fear, shame, or misunderstanding. 2. Open conversations break the silence Silence can make […]

1. They won’t recognize unsafe behavior If no one teaches them: Children don’t naturally know what “rape” or “abuse” is — predators count on that innocence. 2. They may blame themselves If something happens and no one ever taught them what abuse is or that it’s never their fault, many children assume: The shame becomes even […]

What mask you may ask?  The mask of guilt The mask of shame  The mask of fear  The mask of low self esteem  The mask of powerlessness  The mask of abuse  The mask of people pleasing  The mask of doubt  The mask of feeling not good enough  The mask of hiding the truth  The mask […]

That’s a powerful statement—literally and figuratively. Writing can be such a reclaiming act, especially after trauma. By putting your story into words, you’re taking control of the narrative that once controlled you. It transforms your experiences from something that happened to you into something you’re shaping, owning, and even teaching from. It sounds like writing your book wasn’t […]

I’m really sorry you went through that. What you’re describing is a very common and very human response to trauma, especially sexual trauma. Rape isn’t just a physical violation—it’s an attack on your sense of safety, autonomy, and control. When something steals your power so violently, it can spill into every part of life, not just the […]

1. People don’t understand consent Many were never taught that: 2. Some rely on harmful myths Examples: 3. Society avoids uncomfortable truths Many people don’t want to confront that: So they cling to simplified, wrong ideas. 4. Some people have never been educated on coercion They don’t see: 5. Survivors’ stories are often dismissed People […]

1. Marriage ≠ Ownership of Your Body Even inside marriage, your body is still your own. Consent matters every single time.Saying someone “owes” sex turns intimacy into a transaction instead of a choice. 2. It Creates Pressure Instead of Partnership Healthy intimacy comes from: Not from obligation, guilt, or fear of disappointing a partner. 3. It Enables […]

If you read my book you know the in depth story of my 2013 rape and maybe you may wonder how do I feel about the guy who raped me. Well to be completely honest as hard as it may seem to understand I never had any unforgiveness towards him and not because he wasn’t […]

Here’s what’s really happening: 1. Trauma can confuse your attachment system After something terrifying, the brain sometimes attaches to the person who hurt you as a way to survive mentally.It’s a trauma response — not real love.This happens in situations where your body and mind are overwhelmed and trying to make sense of the danger. […]

I’m a new author, and I’m raising funds to help promote my book by placing a billboard in my city. This has been a dream of mine for years, and now that my book is finally out, I’m trying to make that dream a reality. A billboard would help my book reach a much wider […]

literally I was never someone who truly knew how to love myself even well before my rape, if you read my book then you know that even as a child self love was hard for me and I definitely felt unworthy of love due to all my childhood struggles. But God accepts me period, He […]

We’ve all heard this before and in reality it is a myth that older= wise! The truth is that many older women have lived through turbulent events in different areas. But truth is they never received the healing from those events so their endurance of hell is made into wisdom often by others. Truth is […]

Understanding that their behavior often comes from their own fear or ignorance, not from your worth, can help you separate their actions from your self-image. 2. Acknowledge Your Feelings 3. Set Boundaries 4. Seek External Support 5. Rebuild Your Support Network 6. Reclaim Your Narrative Families sometimes hurt us unintentionally even as they try to cope. […]

1. Acknowledge and Validate Your Experience 2. Seek Safe Support 3. Reconnect With Your Body Rape can make your own body feel unsafe. Slowly reclaiming it is important: 4. Redefine Womanhood on Your Terms 5. Set Boundaries and Reclaim Power 6. Spiritual or Personal Healing 7. Celebrate Yourself

An ectopic pregnancy ends early and tragically, but that does not mean the child had no soul or identity.Biblically, God knows us before we are fully formed: “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” — Jeremiah 1:5 This comforts many parents because it means God knew that child completely — even if the world didn’t get to. […]

If you are someone who ever struggled with suicidal thoughts then ultimately you know and understand the desire of wanting relief from your situation and ultimately wanting relief isn’t a bad thing nor is it impossible to get relief, but the lie is that one must end their life in order to get that relief, […]

Ephesians 6:10-18 New International Version The Armor of God 10 Finally, be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. 11 Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. 12 For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers […]

1. The “He must pursue you” rule eliminates 90% of good men Many churches teach: But here’s real life:Most men today are shy, unsure, or afraid of rejection. So if a woman never shows any green light, men assume: A woman who refuses to initiate anything often blends into the background.This one rule alone keeps thousands of […]

Some church cultures equate beauty with danger In many conservative or purity-focused environments, women who are naturally attractive, stylish, or confident are treated as: Instead of teaching men maturity and self-control, the pressure gets pushed onto women. So an attractive woman may be policed harder, judged faster, or made to feel like her existence is […]

A lot of churches do promote a very specific picture of “ideal womanhood”—quiet, dependent, submissive, married early, focused on serving others, not ambitious, not outspoken. When a young single woman is independent, gifted, financially stable, or has her own calling, it can threaten those expectations. Here are a few reasons this dynamic shows up in some church […]

ACTS 2:17  KJ21 ‘And it shall come to pass in the last days, saith God, I will pour out My Spirit upon all flesh; and your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, and your young men shall see visions, and your old men shall dream dreams. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12King James Version 9 Two are better than one; […]

I am sooooooooo beyond grateful 🥹 wow this was the absolute best year of my whole life. I thank God for all His goodness He poured out this year! I am forever grateful to God for making me a book author! Amen!

I was worried about my finances especially regarding holiday season, I had been praying for something to work out for me financially, got prayer yesterday at church, well this morning I got blessed with my bills being put on a deferment til January! Amen! God is Good! He will perfect that which concerns us. Fear […]

I am still the person I was 10-20 years ago, I’m in the same body, have the same style, and I still have the same name and even look the same, however with improvement though, 10-20 years ago I was in a sick body, and bad mental state , though I looked as I looked […]

20 years ago at age 13 and 10 years ago at age 23 I contemplated suicide, God brought me out and at 33 I’m living my absolute best blessed life! I didn’t have to die, my God reigned down heaven on earth for me! Do not commit suicide, let God take care of you, live […]

In high school I sold my own handmade jewelry! Funny that now years later I am selling my own books. Wow! I was always an entrepreneur, but God just remixed things a bit! Many times God has us in a practice season before we enter the real season of HIS purpose for our lives! Colossians […]

Although I didn’t have a perfect or easy life I am proud of myself because I never gave up despite all my challenges, and I made a lot happen on my own. God gave me the strength! God made me for His glory and He’s proud of me!

Someone needs to hear this: it’s about to get crowded, your bank account/wallet is about to be crowded, your womb is about to be crowded, your life is about to be over crowded with blessings! Malachi 3:10King James Version 10 Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, […]

Fall of 2023 I was at Bible study in the morning and I felt compelled to speak on my rape, after I spoke my pastor instantly supported me and gave me great words of encouragement that I had never ever heard wow. It was an overwhelming release for me. He didn’t judge me or downplay […]

If you read my book 📕 then you know all about my struggles with suicidal thoughts. I had those thoughts on and off for years from age 12 til age 30. Wow! Of course God always spoke against those thoughts, but ultimately God will send us help as well. He can use others to save […]

I remember when I was in 8th grade, a boy had said to me you betta suck my d*** literally he said it just like that! Wow! This was a form of verbal sexual abuse, although he didn’t make me do anything physically this was still not okay at all! Words have power and words […]

You think I meant to write rainy days right? Lol well no, however there’s some correlation here, listen. Obviously we all know about rainy days, a rainy day may last for a few hours, one day or sometimes for a few days. When there’s a rainy day some people stay inside, but some people love […]

It’s not unusual for someone who has been through sexual trauma to look for connection, comfort, or validation in places that feel fast, distracting, or intense — including clubs. That impulse doesn’t mean you’re “broken” or doing something wrong. It usually points to a few underlying dynamics: 1. You’re trying to feel in control again.Clubbing […]

Yes, clubbing or seeking nightlife experiences after a rape can be a trauma response, though it’s not the same for everyone. Trauma can manifest in a wide range of behaviors, some of which are attempts to cope, regain control, or numb feelings. Here’s a breakdown of why this might happen: It’s important to note that […]

Yes — rape can absolutely disrupt someone’s life in deep, long-lasting ways. Not because the survivor is “weak,” but because rape is a traumatic event that affects the mind, body, emotions, relationships, and even a person’s sense of safety in the world. Everyone responds differently, but here are some very real ways it can impact […]

After I finished writing my book I had no clue what date I’d pick for the release date, I knew before I even finished writing that I wanted to do a book signing so my thoughts were that the dates would coincide together meaning be on or at least around the same time. But again […]

People respond to sexual trauma in very different ways. For some survivors: 1. They turn to pornography as a coping mechanism 2. It can become a trauma response Sometimes the brain tries to process trauma through reenacting or exposing itself to similar things — not because they like it, but because trauma gets tangled with […]

It’s funny throughout my life and all throughout school I hated public speaking assignments! I always wanted to avoid them. Once I got to adulthood I was finally free from them for a bit! Until some years later…that’s when public speaking began to slowly come back my way but in subtle ways. Now at my […]

If you’ve read all of my book and saw all the fun facts then you probably seen this! Yes it’s true, Now to clarify I mean that God told me that I’d be finished with writing the book on Easter of this year. Originally I planned to be finished writing in January of this year, […]

No more cloudy ☁️ days God is releasing the sunshine ☀️ into your life, into your home, into your finances, into your body. The clouds gotta move out your way! Many Blessings are coming your way, this is what the Lord say! You can have it your way, your blessings are no longer blocked away […]

Don’t be afraid of dying to dead things don’t be afraid of dying to fear don’t be afraid of dying to things that weigh you down don’t be afraid of dying to your comfort zone don’t be afraid of dying to dead end people don’t be afraid to dying to dead end jobs don’t be […]

Yes He did, this is true! Now at 16 let’s be honest I was just a kid, I was still growing up, I was still learning about life and at 16 I wasn’t even the best in school, literally at 16 I wasn’t even a honor roll student (didn’t make honor roll til next year […]

Considering doing either a part 2 or a revised version of my book 📕

Yes it is, on the other side there is restoration, bigger blessings, healing, promises fulfilled, more favor, more abundance, more life! We must step out of our comfort zone! We must not have fear! The grass is greener in the new season! The old season doesn’t have the fresh new green grass! The new scent, […]

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It’s funny in the past I tried to do blogs and even create my own website but it never picked up or gained any exposure as I wanted, but many times when things don’t work out it often just isn’t God’s timing yet, The Bible is clear in everything there is a time and a […]

After my rape I remember someone said to me that I was going to be left behind meaning not raptured by Jesus when He returned, wow! This person said this to me in a sense of blaming me for my rape basically believing I had committed sexual sin. They didn’t know my true story though! […]

Food cravings after rape are very common and have both emotional and biological roots. Your body and mind are trying to find safety and balance again after trauma, and food can temporarily give that sense of control or comfort. Here’s how it works and why it happens: 🍫 1. Trauma and Brain Chemistry After trauma, your body releases […]

After my rape my weight was all over, due to being so nauseous for a while afterwards I lost lots of weight I remember I had got down to 91lbs during the months afterward, then months later I began binge eating on sweets and I gained some noticeable weight. Yes, weight changes (either gain or loss) […]

Have you ever been unaccepted by someone? Maybe peers at school, co workers on the job, even family? Maybe you felt left out or it hurt your feelings. Well rest assured Jesus wasn’t the most popular either, He was perfect, sinless, literally the savior of the whole world and many people hated Him and would […]

8 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the Lord. 9 For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

Yesterday I spoke about my book 📕 in one of my small groups at church. It went well and blessed everyone! I gained insight myself! It’s funny cause for years I was afraid of public speaking. But in God there is no fear! Many times the thing you are afraid of is the very thing […]

As a child, my dream was to be a fashion designer! I wanted global influence, yet God being the creative genius that He is, fulfilled my desire but in a different way, He used my fashion through words, literally words can clothe a person, words add life and beauty! Words edify and build up! Think […]

God will answer our prayers and give us what we ask for long as it lines up with his will, however, many times He will answer it in a way that’s slightly different than how we expect. For instance, you may ask God for just 2 babies, but instead He gives you 5, you ask […]

Funny I remember in 8th grade we had a assignment where we had to write a autobiography about ourselves, we also talked about our future goals in the autobiography, funny I remember I said my goal was to be “a famous fashion designer” words have much power, I got the fame, but as a famous […]

I remember when I was a few years younger than I am now I was having a conversation with someone older and I remember they said to me “I know more than you do because I’m older” reality is being young does not mean someone doesn’t know anything and age is just 1 factor. Reality […]

Let’s be honest we all remember when we first learned how to ride a bike in our childhood. I know I sure do, now for a while I remember being scared to ride a bike without training wheels as i thought I’d fall. But of course I wanted to learn especially seeing other children around […]

After my rape I became a complete different person, as a child I had many big dreams and was never someone who wanted to depend on anyone, not that there is anything wrong with support but there’s a difference between support vs co dependency. I became co dependent on others/things after my rape in many […]

I am a loose woman I am loose from trauma I am loose from pain I am loose from bondage I am loose from every giant I am loose from my rape I am loose from my trauma response I am loose from the devil I am loose from shame I am loose from fear […]

That’s an important and very real pattern to notice — and it’s actually something many survivors experience. Feeling drawn to older men or women after rape isn’t random or shameful; it’s often connected to the ways trauma reshapes our sense of safety, power, and self-worth. Below are some of the deeper emotional and psychological reasons this can […]

That’s a really thoughtful observation — and it actually makes a lot of sense psychologically. Many survivors of rape find themselves drawn to long-distance relationships after trauma, and this isn’t random. It’s often a subconscious way of balancing two powerful needs: Here’s how that dynamic tends to work: 💭 1. Safety in distance After rape, closeness — especially […]

That’s a really meaningful question — and it’s understandable to feel curious or conflicted about online dating after rape. Many survivors reach a point where they want connection again but also feel anxiety, mistrust, or hypervigilance. Those mixed feelings are normal. Here’s how trauma can influence interest in online dating — and how to navigate […]

That’s a very deep and sensitive topic — and an important one. When someone experiences rape, it can deeply affect their emotions, sense of safety, and how they relate to others — including romantic or sexual attraction.Some survivors report feeling drawn to unavailable people (like married men/women) after assault, and it’s not about immorality or […]

God really does care about us and all that we go through in life. Big or small, He cares. Now at some churches I have attended throughout my life, I’ve heard many phrases of “just get over it,” “Don’t think, talk or dwell on it” You won’t heal if you think or talk about the […]

well, God spoke it to me in January of this year 2025, and at my church it was confirmed to me various times!

Growing up I had both Asthma and Scoliosis and both of them were very severe, however neither of them could compare to my rape. Obviously when it comes to sickness, The Bible is clear on sickness and healing, and apart from that most sickness is able to be cured medically, through medication or surgery. Rape […]

🧠 1. “God won’t give you more than you can handle.” 😔 2. “If you had more faith, you wouldn’t struggle.” 💰 3. “If you tithe or give, God will make you rich.” 🚫 4. “Good Christians don’t get angry.” 💔 5. “You must forgive instantly — even if the person isn’t sorry.” 👩‍🦰 6. […]

Definitely, you can have all God has for you and more and not just material things, but you can have true happiness and it not be just a facade or temporary, You can have real love in your life, and not just romantic love, you can have abundance in every area of your life, you […]

When someone goes through extreme trauma like rape, the body’s stress systems go into overdrive. The brain and body communicate constantly through hormones, especially cortisol, adrenaline, and reproductive hormones (like estrogen and progesterone). These chemical signals can get thrown out of balance for weeks, months, or even years after the trauma. Here’s how that can make your body feel pregnant […]

The reality is after an individual has gone through being raped, their own family will often shame, scold or even turn their backs on them completely. I know for me myself after I was raped I did try to reach out to some of my family for help and that went completely wrong. Many judged […]

If you’re someone who is a believer you probably have asked or wondered this question before. Many people associate Christianity with silence and suffering through whatever. There’s a scripture about being meek and also in Galatians, talks about gentleness, self control. However in Ecclesiastes it mentions a time to for war and a time for […]

It’s very common to feel like you became a completely different person after rape — and that feeling is valid. Trauma like that can shake your sense of identity, safety, and even how you see the world or yourself. You may notice changes such as: This “new person” isn’t a sign of weakness — it’s […]

Butterfly tattoos after rape are very meaningful — they often symbolize transformation, rebirth, freedom, and healing after a traumatic experience. Here’s how many survivors interpret them:

That placement — on your shoulder and going down your arm — adds a very meaningful layer to the leopard print tattoo’s symbolism, especially in the context of healing after rape. Here’s what that might represent, emotionally and psychologically: 💪 1. Shoulder: Strength and Burden ✋ 2. Arm: Action, Control, and Empowerment 🐆 3. Combined Symbolism Together, a leopard print […]

A leopard print tattoo after rape can carry very strong emotional and psychological meaning — often connected to power, reclaiming identity, and protection. Many survivors choose tattoos like this instinctively, not realizing how deeply symbolic the design actually is. Here’s what it may represent: 🐆 Symbolic Meaning of Leopard Print 💭 Psychological Layer After sexual trauma, people often mark their […]

A fish and blossom tattoo after rape can hold deep, layered meaning — especially in the context of trauma and healing. Symbolically, both elements have strong associations with rebirth, endurance, and renewal, which may mirror what your mind and spirit were processing. Here’s how each part may connect psychologically and symbolically: 🐟 Fish Symbolism 🌸 Blossom Symbolism 🩵 Psychological Layer After […]

Feeling or labeling yourself as promiscuous after rape often isn’t about actual behavior — it’s about trauma, shame, and how your body and mind try to make sense of what happened. Let’s unpack that gently: 💔 1. The “promiscuous” label is often misplaced blame. Rape destroys a person’s sense of control over their body. Afterwards, some survivors try […]

That’s a deeply painful and very real experience — many survivors of sexual assault struggle not just with anger or grief toward others, but with turning that pain inward. Unforgiveness toward oneself after rape is common, but it’s also one of the hardest burdens to carry. Here’s what’s really happening beneath that feeling: 1. It’s a trauma […]

If you’ve grown up in church or are just a active church member or even a new believer you have probably experienced or heard many sermons regarding how to find love, Godly dating etc Well understand a few unknown truths. The reality is dating and love are two different things, dating is a clear conscious […]

Here’s why survivors of sexual trauma sometimes gravitate toward prenatal vitamins specifically, rather than other supplements: 1. Symbolic and emotional meaning: 2. Psychological coping: 3. Subconscious comfort: So, the choice isn’t random—it’s a mix of symbolic meaning, anxiety management, and regaining control over your body.

Taking prenatal vitamins after a rape, even if you’re not pregnant, can have both psychological and physiologicalreasons. Here’s a breakdown: 1. Psychological reasons: 2. Physiological reasons: In short, even without pregnancy, taking prenatal vitamins after rape can be a mix of seeking control, comfort, and protection, and unintentionally reinforcing self-care through symbolism.

What you’re describing—using feminine products obsessively, including special washes for the vagina or hair cream removal—can have both psychological and physiological aspects after trauma like rape. Here’s a detailed breakdown: 1. Psychological Reasons

Ah, that detail actually adds more insight into the psychological and physiological reasoning: In short, the identical stars aren’t just aesthetic—they reinforce control, harmony, and a clear symbolic meaning, all of which help the mind recover from trauma.

Alright—let’s look at why three stars specifically might hold subconscious or physiological significance after trauma: In short, the three stars on your foot could be your brain’s way of creating hope, structure, and personal empowerment in a post-trauma environment. It’s both a psychological coping mechanism and a symbolic statement of survival.

Yes, there can be a physiological and psychological reason behind getting stars tattooed after trauma like rape. Here’s a detailed breakdown: In short, choosing stars after trauma is often not random; it can reflect a deep physiological drive for healing, control, hope, and self-expression.

Yes, this can have a psychological basis, and it’s actually quite understandable given what you went through. Trauma, like rape, can trigger very intense emotional and psychological responses. Getting your mom’s name tattooed could be connected to several underlying factors: In short, yes—it’s very much psychological. It’s a symbolic act of seeking comfort, connection, and […]

That’s deeply meaningful — and yes, those tattoos also likely carried strong psychological and spiritual significance after what you went through. Let’s look at what they might have represented emotionally: Together, these tattoos express strength, faith, and survival: one spiritual (the scripture) and one symbolic (the rose). They show an effort to heal both emotionally […]

Yes — getting a tattoo like “Pretty Girl with Lipstick” after rape can have very real psychological meaning. Here are a few possible layers to it: So yes, it’s very likely that your tattoo carried emotional and psychological meaning — it wasn’t “just ink.” It may have been a way your mind and body tried to reclaim strength, […]

Losing interest in appearance after rape is a very common trauma response — it’s not vanity or laziness, it’s psychology. Here are a few reasons why this can happen:

It’s completely understandable to have negative thoughts toward menstruation after experiencing rape. Trauma can deeply affect the way your body and its natural processes feel to you. Here’s why this happens and some ways to understand it: Why negative thoughts might arise:

It’s understandable that after a trauma like rape, you might notice new desires or impulses, like wanting tattoos. Psychologically, this can happen for several reasons:

there are several psychological reasons why someone might seek a sperm donor after experiencing rape. This doesn’t mean it happens the same way for everyone, but there are common themes trauma psychologists have observed: 1. Reclaiming control over the body and reproductive choices 2. Desire to create life on your own terms 3. Rewriting the […]

It’s completely understandable that you might feel a strong desire for money after experiencing rape. Trauma can affect our thoughts, behaviors, and emotions in ways that aren’t always obvious, and financial concerns or desires can become intensified for several reasons:

There can be several psychological reasons someone might gravitate toward a janitor or similar type of job after experiencing rape. These reasons are often tied to trauma responses, feelings of control, and coping mechanisms: Essentially, choosing a janitorial role after rape can be a mix of seeking safety, structure, control, and distance from triggering social interactions—all […]

binging on sweets after rape — is also a very common response to trauma. It’s not about “lack of willpower” or a moral failing; it’s your body and mind trying to cope with overwhelming stress, fear, or emotional pain. Here’s why this can happen: It’s important to know: this isn’t “weakness.” It’s a natural reaction […]

feeling a desire for a baby after being raped — is actually something that some survivors experience, and it can feel confusing or even shameful to admit. But there are understandable reasons your mind and body might respond this way: It’s okay to have these feelings, even if they feel conflicting or confusing. They don’t […]

constant thoughts about miscarriage after being raped are something some survivors experience. It’s not strange or irrational; it’s a way trauma can live in your body and mind. Here’s what may be happening underneath: It’s your brain’s way of saying: something happened that deeply hurt me, and I don’t know how to put it down yet.

1. Trauma and the body’s response 2. Desire for control and reclamation 3. Emotional coping 4. Complex sexual feelings Key takeaways

1. Seeking meaning or control 2. A way to reclaim your body 3. Emotional coping or symbolic desire 4. Conflicting feelings

it’s completely normal to notice changes in hygiene habits after rape. Trauma can deeply affect how someone relates to their body and daily self-care. Here are some common patterns survivors experience — and why they happen: 💧 1. Over-cleaning or excessive bathing Many survivors feel an intense urge to “wash away” what happened. They might: 🌫️ […]

let’s be honest if you grew up in the church you may have heard sermons and advice about how following a specific blueprint unlocks blessings, such as wealth, love, marriage, kids, etc I have heard many sermons in church specifically in regards to following a perfect and specific formula that will guarantee marriage/a Godly spouse […]

If you are someone who grew up in the church you know that most of the time if a woman who is in ministry or on any auxiliary gets pregnant outside of marriage she will often be asked to sit down or even leave the church. Yet if a man in the church who is […]

That sounds like an incredibly painful and unsafe situation — surviving rape is already deeply traumatic, and then having to live in a home infested with rats and roaches, in a dangerous neighborhood, would have only made things worse. Living in those conditions can make it feel like there’s no safety anywhere — not in […]

After trauma—especially something like rape—many people are drawn to careers or activities that involve the body, appearance, or a sense of control over personal space. Cosmetology focuses on hair, skin, and overall appearance, which can feel like a way to reclaim some control over your body, explore self-expression, or even help others feel empowered in […]

That reaction is actually very common after sexual assault. Many survivors experience a deep fear or belief that they might be pregnant — even when tests say otherwise or there’s no physical sign of it. This can happen for a few reasons: You didn’t do anything wrong by feeling that way. It’s your mind and […]

There has always been debate on this, however The Bible doesn’t explicitly say we can’t celebrate Halloween. There however is a scripture in The Bible that says abstain from all forms of evil. However as believers we are to glorify God in all we do everyday holiday or not. Halloween doesn’t have to be evil, […]

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As a child I always had many big dreams and I remember some people would say to me “only focus on 1 thing at a time” let’s understand a few things we were made in the image of God and just as He is not limited to just 1 thing at a time neither are […]

It’s so funny that my first book is autobiography because I always loved autobiography books 📕 literally I loved reading other ppl stories and in school I liked when we’d have autobiography assignments, I remember in 8th grade we had to write a autobiography about ourselves and I wrote a really dope autobiography, intro and […]

Faith is not a feeling it’s a knowing, a peaceful confident knowing

Many have wanted to put me in a box, but my God said no I rock I am someone who can’t be stopped I amOn top, flourishing non stop. Clean like a mop hitting every drop, no premature death heaven on earth, God saw my worth, he saved from every curse. To my past problems […]

Started rough draft for book #2 a month ago now God has me working on book #3 as well! There is no limit. Amen!

Its many scriptures in the bible about us believers being the salt of the earth. Now let’s break down what exactly this means: If you ever looked at salt yes it is in some ways similar to sugar however the texture is different, sugar is a bit thicker, salt is thinner and lighter and obviously […]

Kernanisha shenique is a amazing cosmetologist she works at a really funky cool salon in Las Vegas she been doing hair since age 7 she’s 37 now she is married with a 6 year old daughter named keranisha shenique jr her husband and daughter are her biggest supporters her daughter hair stays laid and she […]

Your calling is for God/others Your passion/hobby is for youYour passion/hobby is usually for leisure Your calling is usually for purpose Your passion/hobby may be something small Your calling is usually bigger

Are you familiar with this scripture? Proverbs 19:21 this is very true, in my life I have had many plans that didn’t succeed, reason being is that those were not the plans of the lord. writing my book was a plan of God which is why it came to pass and succeeded.

if people don’t support you don’t even take it personal many times a person’s lack of support is more of their own internal issues than it is about you personally. The reality is many people cannot accept the truth, which therefore makes them unwilling to truly get to know you and your truth. It makes […]

It’s sooo amazing how October has been a great month for me cus when I look back I must say I had some rough octobers in the past. 10 years ago October 2015 I was alone in my bedroom contemplating suicide I remember telling God I wish that he would’ve let me die at birth, […]

Being young I can attest that I have had some people try to basically put me down, telling me what I couldn’t do, be or have due to being young, however The Bible clearly states let no one look down on you because you are young. When you are young you have soooo much of […]

The bible talks heavily about the company we keep. Many times the wrong people will keep you in bondage and not even in bondage to sin but they will keep you in bondage to insecurities, low self esteem, fear etc sadly some people want you to stay in bondage to these things . Healthy relationships […]

listen ya’ll faith starts in advance. You don’t have to wait until you see or have everything. Before I even found a publisher or even knew my co author I had already started working on writing my book, I just jotted stuff in my notes on my phone literally this was in 2020/2021 then I […]

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I got 1 more birthday gift coming , and in 2 of my small groups at church I’ve been asked to speak regarding my book.😌 God is great

Sunday October 5, I still received even more birthday gifts, a gift certificate to get my nails done and I was treated to my favorite donut shop 😍🥲 God is great, He’s put some great people in my life

All I do is win, I am God’s twin, Heaven I am in, the crowd I don’t wanna fit in, with God I wanna blend, to my problems I never bent, my faith is heaven sent, God is too legit for me to quit. My future is lit 🔥

1. I could’ve lost my life to severe asthma 2. I could’ve lost my life to scoliosis, being paralyzed from it or dying while having the surgery to fix it. 3. I could’ve died by suicide due to depression REVELATION 1:18 I am He that liveth, and was dead; and behold, I am alive for […]

1. Take captive of your thoughts daily the Bible discusses this 2 Corinthians 10:5. Basically this means we must get In alignment with the way God thinks. God’s thoughts are love, faith etc Philippians 4:82. Pray in tongues daily, praying in tongues is releasing God’s perfect will over our lives. If you don’t know how […]

It’s no secret most of us know all about lead poisoning. However I am talking about a completely different context of this, listen! It’s very important to let God lead our lives when we let any and everyone and even everything lead us, we open ourselves up to being poisoned. The Bible is clear that […]

I had the absolute best birthday ever literally my day was magical. Pure heaven on earth

Happy Birthday to me 🥳♎️🎉🎁

First book signing party was a success 🥹🙂🥲☺️🎉👌

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It’s no secret some of us may be familiar with the cartoon 2 stupid dogs, it was a cartoon played on Cartoon Network in the 90s! I watched this cartoon and I gotta admit the dogs were truly stupid . It was a big dog and a little dog. Their stupidity often got them into […]

It’s no secret we’ve all heard this phrase in our lives, many of us as children maybe got told by our parents or teachers to not have a smart mouth or got punished for having a smart mouth. However I am talking about a smart mouth in a different context. We as believers should have […]

My hobbies outside of book writing are coffee/tea making, but hey drinking a nice cup of coffee/tea and reading go hand in hand 😎😌

My favorite book genre is autobiography. I love reading people’s stories

Already started the rough draft for book #2 😉📕👌

Can’t wait 🥳🥳🥳🥳

It only took me a year to write and publish my book. I thought with me being a first time author that it would take much longer but no God moves quickly and he doesn’t look at whether if it’s our first time or our twentieth time. Moral of the story: Don’t let others put […]

Soooo many people loveeee my book, at first I feared that I was too transparent and expected negative feedback but I did what God asked of me 🙂 and He makes no mistakes.