At one church I attended, there was an older lady who made it her mission to lecture me about not getting pregnant—not having “no babies,” as she put it. Every time I saw her, it was the same message, beaten into me over and over. Yet, never once was there a word about the men I might be involved with, or their responsibility in relationships. Not a single reminder that men also play a role in pregnancy, or that they should be held accountable for their actions.
- Posted on January 11, 2026
This is a prime example of a culture that blames women while excusing men. Women are constantly reminded that their worth is tied to fertility, morality, and the outcomes of situations they cannot fully control. Men, on the other hand, can act freely, often without consequence. The message is clear: women are responsible, men are exempt.
This isn’t just an isolated experience—it’s a systemic problem. And it’s one that reinforces shame, fear, and guilt in women, while letting men off the hook. Until that imbalance is addressed, women will continue to carry the burden of accountability for situations that are not theirs alone.
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