Most people were never clearly taught what consent actually is, especially in churches, families, or schools. So they rely on assumptions, silence, power dynamics, or outdated ideas instead of real understanding.

At its core, consent is:

• Clear – not implied, not assumed
• Freely given – no pressure, fear, guilt, or obligation
• Informed – you know what you’re agreeing to
• Reversible – you can change your mind at any time
• Specific – agreeing to one thing ≠ agreeing to everything
• Enthusiastic – not just “I guess” or “fine”

What many people were taught instead:

• “If they didn’t say no, it’s yes”
• “Marriage equals consent”
• “Submission means compliance”
• “Your body belongs to your spouse”
• “Talking about sex = being sinful”

None of that is consent.

And this gap in understanding is exactly why so many people:

• Don’t recognize abuse when it happens
• Blame victims (including themselves)
• Feel confused, ashamed, or silenced afterward