After rape, many survivors develop zero tolerance for fakeness, manipulation, or surface-level relationships because your nervous system and intuition become highly protective. You’ve already been violated once, so anything that feels performative, controlling, dismissive, or inauthentic can register as danger, not just “annoying.”
- Posted on December 15, 2025
A few important things to know:
- Your discernment often sharpens. You notice inconsistencies, hidden motives, spiritual manipulation, or people who only show up when it benefits them.
- Small red flags feel loud now because your body learned what happens when warning signs are ignored.
- You don’t have the emotional capacity for pretending anymore. Politeness at the expense of your safety feels wrong now.
- Your tolerance for shallow apologies, fake concern, or conditional support drops. Especially from people who want access to you but won’t protect you.
This isn’t you becoming “bitter,” “hard,” or “unloving.”
It’s your boundaries upgrading.
And in spaces like church, this can feel extra jarring—because fakeness often hides behind “niceness,” “spiritual language,” or forced forgiveness. Your spirit rejecting that is not rebellion; it’s wisdom.
- You’re not cold.
- You’re awake.