The reality is after an individual has gone through being raped, their own family will often shame, scold or even turn their backs on them completely. I know for me myself after I was raped I did try to reach out to some of my family for help and that went completely wrong. Many judged me and even thought I was just crazy. Some even got humor out of my situation. I remember very specifically someone said to me “your stupid a** shouldn’t have been f****** raw” wow! Many survivors describe this as a “second betrayal” because the people who were supposed to be a safe place instead added to the hurt.

Here are a few things to understand and consider:

Therapy or survivor groups can help rebuild trust.
A trauma-informed counselor can help you process both the assault and the pain of family rejection. There are also confidential hotlines (like RAINN: 1-800-656-4673) that can connect you with free, compassionate support.

Their reaction isn’t your fault.
Some families respond with denial, silence, or blame because they can’t handle the truth, not because your experience is invalid. Their discomfort or ignorance doesn’t make your trauma less real.

You still deserve support and care.
Healing doesn’t depend on your family understanding you. Support can come from friends, survivor groups, trauma-informed therapists, or even online communities where people truly get it.

It’s okay to set boundaries.
If certain family members minimize, dismiss, or guilt you, you have the right to limit contact or protect your peace. You don’t owe anyone explanations or forgiveness while you’re still healing.

I wasn’t crazy or stupid at all, people just wanted to manipulate me into thinking I was crazy only to silence me more but I was experiencing a legit trauma response. The people who tried to shame me and blame me only made me stronger, I overcame not only the rape but the also the mental and emotional abuse