What you’re describing—using feminine products obsessively, including special washes for the vagina or hair cream removal—can have both psychological and physiological aspects after trauma like rape. Here’s a detailed breakdown:

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1. Psychological Reasons

• Sense of cleanliness/control: After sexual assault, survivors often feel a loss of control over their body. Obsessively cleaning the genital area or using specific products can be a way to regain a sense of control or “wash away” the trauma.
• Anxiety and hypervigilance: Trauma can make people more anxious about germs, odor, or body fluids. This can lead to repeated washing or grooming rituals.
• Body-focused coping: Using products obsessively can be an attempt to feel “normal” or restore a sense of safety in the body. It’s similar to behaviors seen in OCD, where rituals are used to reduce distress.